Pay It Forward

Ok, reason number 4,367 that you know you’re a mom – the absolute biggest highlight of your week was finding a nice park for the kids to play so you can be outside for awhile!

One of the downsides to being in an apartment with toddlers is that there is absolutely no space to play and let them just be energetic, goofy, bouncy kids, and God bless them, I know they tried, but our apartment complex playground isn’t really that great…so we go exploring often! When the weather is nice, we try to go out and find someplace nice every afternoon so the babies can run off the energies and Mama can catch some heavenly vitamin-D soaked rays to help her mental state…and her tan 😊

We found a great park yesterday with lots of luxuriously green fields to play on, a nice paved walking path, BATHROOMS! (whaaaaaat?!) and a wonderful playground for all ages, that included fourbaby swings so I didn’t have to play the “turns” game for an hour of swinging – WIN, WIN, WIN!! I enjoyed it a lot, and as I am wont to do, as I am pushing the kids on the swing, I let my thoughts wander. Usually we talk, but they were both quiet watching the bigger kids clamber all over the playground, so I was ok with letting them be quiet for a bit. I started thinking how amazing it is to be in a place where you can just tell someone with experience has been. Like the playground, for example – super silly example, but you could tell that a parent had designed it or at least had input on its design; there was a parent-handprint all over it. There were rubber mats under the swings for safety, plenty of toddler-appropriate play areas as well as challenging stuff for the bigger kids, multiple baby swings, trashcans and bathrooms close by, as well as trees for shade and benches on multiple sides of the playground so you can be close to your kids, no matter which side they are on. In contrast, our apartment playground only has one piece of climbing equipment for all ages, one baby swing and one big kid swing, a huge rock-hard lump of mulch in the middle of the play area, and only one bench for sitting – I know we are blessed to even have a playground here, but you can just tell that it wasn’t designed by a parent!

The same thought goes with other areas of life too – drive thru’s for example, MUST have been created by the parent of a newborn who had just fallen asleep in the carseat, or a toddler mom who was at her wits end after wrangling her octopus-child into the carseat and just needed some French Fries or an iced coffee.

And that, my friends, is why it is important..,, imperative actually, to share your wisdom and experience. If you have gone through something, and can share and help the next person not have to go over such a high hurdle, then please share! If you can improve a product, a situation, even a holiday or shopping experience for someone else because you’ve been there, done that, and noticed the difficulties, then do it! We all have the baby products that you know were designed by a fed-up, sleep deprived mama, and you know that they turn out to be the lifesavers in your arsenal you never knew you needed…God bless the people that step up to help the people coming after them.

I know in today’s day and age we are supposed to be independent and not need anyone, but that is just a lie, and you will shoot yourself in the foot if you don’t avail yourself of the wisdom and experience of others who have already fought that battle.

Whether it comes to kids, marriage, buying a car, or even planting a garden – cast an eye over the things others have written or said about it, take advantage of modifications suggested by pros or loved ones who have been there and done that and failed a time or two, and thank them for their wisdom!

And can we take it one step further? We all need to be telling others about how Jesus is the best thing we have learned in our lives, to save them from the pain of a path that leads away from Him. Life without Jesus can be messy, painful, and ugly and if we have learned that one way or another, we need to pass it on to help others avoid that life. We just celebrated Easter, and Easter Sunday is about the resurrection of Jesus, but no one talks about Easter Monday – in the days following His resurrection, Jesus reappears to the 12 disciples and essentially tells them “Now you believe I am who I said I was, and have seen the things I can do – now go tell everyone!” We need to get out there just like they did – to the grocery store checkout person, to the bank teller, to the other moms on the playground. We need to share our experience with Jesus and make life better for the people coming along after us. 😊

Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves receive from God. – 2 Cor. 1:3-4

May the God who gives endurance and encouragement give you the same attitude of mind toward each other that Christ Jesus had. – Romans 15:5

Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others. – Philippians 2:4


  1. This 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽 Community is so important. Knowledge sharing is so important. People need to hear what we have to say, about children, about mom survival, and about how our Best Friend holds our hand through it all.


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